Introducing the Nurofen for Children Mum’s Club Relationship Expert
The Nurofen for Children Mum’s Club would like to welcome its newest ambassador and relationship expert Dr Charmaine Saunders.
Dr Saunders has been providing support and advice to couples for over twenty years. She has a warm and relaxed style of counselling that has helped thousands of Australians resolve their personal issues in a positive way.
Dr Saunders joins the Nurofen for Children Mum’s Club offering you guidance and support along with expert advice on how to maintain healthy relationships. This month, she will talk about how to manage relationships between partners when starting a new family.
For Sydney and NSW mums who would like to chat to Dr Charmaine Saunders in person and receive one-on-one advice about their relationship, you can meet her at the Nurofen for Children Mum’s Club event in August. Click here to RSVP to the event.
When two becomes three
Up until now it’s just been the two of you. Then all of a sudden baby comes and two becomes three. Your priorities change and the baby becomes the focus of your lives. How do you get back to what you had with your partner? Will your relationship ever be the same again?
Relationships between partners change once a baby arrives and family life begins. And it’s up to you both whether your relationship post baby grows and becomes stronger or begins to fall apart.
Parents can often feel the pressure to maintain the loving relationship they once had. It’s natural to experience anxiety when you have a new born, that combined with loss of sleep and lost lines of communication make it difficult to find time to nurture the love.
Nurofen for Children Mum’s Club ambassador and relationship expert Dr Charmaine Saunders emphasises the importance of maintaining a happy and loving relationship between you and your partner once your baby arrives, believing communication is the key to this.
“Communication is vital in any relationship. Good communication is not only about talking but also about listening. Listening and talking can help avoid any misunderstandings or concerns in your relationship. Communicating with your partner allows you to share interests, opinions and aspirations as well as making important decisions in your lives together to support one another,” she says.
“We choose to spend our time with people in relationships that can bring out the best in ourselves and we don’t want to behave in a way that can harm that connection with someone. Communicating how you feel when you are upset or hurt, strengthens your relationship long term and by-passes frustrating and often unnecessary arguments,” she adds.
Dr Saunders says that babies watch their parents’ every move, listen to their words, feel their responses, and believe everything their parents tell them. So it is important not to display your relationship problems in front of your baby so your baby doesn’t become distressed or even mimic your behaviour.
All couples experience problems in one form or another – it’s part of sharing your life with another human being. The difference between relationships that work, and relationships that don’t is how well couples deal with the challenges and problems they face in their life together. Most couples leave it until their relationship has already started to fall apart before they consider facing the difficulties they have. Dr Saunders believes you need to tackle any problems in your relationship early, to avoid any conflict down the track and unresolved feelings that may resurface many years later.
Dr Charmaine Saunders: top tips to maintain strong communication skills in relationships:
- Communication is always a two-way process
- Develop good listening skills
- Ask, don’t tell
- Say it once; don’t repeat your point or nag continuously
Dr Charmaine Saunders’s advice on what you can do to have a happy healthy family:
Lines of communication should be kept open at all times between parents and their baby/toddler. Questions should be answered simply and honestly no matter how uncomfortable the topic.
Limits are very important, whether it is your baby’s expectations on you or yours on your baby. Rules should be kept to a minimum with healthy boundaries necessary. Respect needs to be both ways.
Unconditional love is the only kind worth having and giving. Accepting your baby/toddler doesn't mean you agree with their decisions all the time or give in to their demands but you shouldn’t judge them according to your desires and needs.
Trust comes from positive reinforcement. A baby/toddler has total trust in parents but as they grow, they see more and more imperfections and find faults with them. It is important that you don’t expose your baby/toddler to conflict, drama, anger, stress, tension or arguing.
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Always read the label. Use only as directed. Incorrect use could be harmful. If symptoms persist, see your healthcare professional. Do not give to babies under 3 months. Seek medical advice for children less than 1 year.
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